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The Different Flavors of Sex

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I was talking with a friend the other day and I made a comment about funny sex.

“Funny sex?” he replied.

“Yeah, you know, when you’re cracking up about something during sex.”

“Is that a thing?”

A Variety of Flavors

I realized that there are different kinds of sex that you can enjoy with your spouse. You don’t always have the same mood in the bedroom. You don’t always come to intimate times with the same attitude or frame of mind. As a result, there are different flavors of sex. Now, every marriage is different, so there’s a virtual Baskin Robbins of varieties out there! I’m just going to cover some that we’ve discovered.

Vanilla

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The first, most obvious flavor is the ol’ standby – vanilla. Vanilla’s gotten a bad rap, y’all. I hear/read people all the time (especially in movies and tv) talking about how boring their sex life is.

It’s just so… vanilla.

What’s wrong with vanilla? It’s a perfectly serviceable ice cream flavor. For that matter, maybe you’ve never had the right vanilla. Have you ever done a side by side taste test of generic Walmart brand, $2 for a gallon vanilla compared to Bryer’s premium vanilla bean? There’s no comparison!

Vanilla sex is your basic love-making session. Whatever your go-to positions and procedures are. You know that if you do A, B, and C, you’re both coming away satisfied. This, to me, is wonderful sex.

It’s predictable, it’s reliable, it’s consistent. Satisfaction guaranteed!

If you haven’t yet figured out what vanilla sex is for you and your spouse, I’d recommend doing so. Figure out what the easiest way for each of you to be satisfied is, and remember it. Don’t be afraid to fall back on something reliable on a regular basis.

Rocky Road

We all know that variety is the spice of life. This includes your sex life. As such, there are more flavors to explore. Rocky Road is passionate sex.  It’s the loud, raucous, curl your toes and clutch the bed sheets sex. Every now and then, you’re going to have an intimate time that is a little more aggressive, active, or passionate.

Scratch that – this isn’t “intimate time,” this is SEX. Yes, it’s intimate. Yes, it’s emotional. But mainly, it’s physical. This can be that big release you need after a period of stress or conflict, or maybe after a prolonged time apart. Make sure that you indulge in a little rocky road here and there. Just let go and have at it!

Tutti-frutti

This brings us to the flavor that started the whole thing. Tutti-frutti is silly sex. This is the kind of sex you laugh during.

Yes, funny sex is a thing.

smiling-series-2-1506272-1279x1705To some, this may sound odd, maybe even insulting. “I don’t think I want my spouse laughing at me during sex.” Two points here. First, I don’t necessarily mean laughing AT you, but WITH you. So, you’re moving around and her head bangs into yours. That’s funny! Laugh about it. You’re in the groove when all of sudden, your bellies make that poot sound that happens sometimes (that’s not just us, right?). That’s funny! Laugh about it.

Second, maybe your spouse IS laughing at you. You say something goofy, make a weird face, slip and roll off the bed. That’s funny! Your spouse SHOULD laugh at you. Well, as long as you’re both cool with it.

You should be laughing together as a couple often. If you are, and you remember that you’re on the same team and not out to get each other, then laughing in the bedroom should be totally cool. And it’s fun!

Ben & Jerry’s “Everything but the…”

Ben & Jerry’s is the best. And if you’re ever in the mood for a different flavor of ice cream, try their “Everything but the…”. It’s packed with stuff. Lots of new things.

Your sex life needs new things, too!  This flavor is adventurous sex. It’s those times when you try something new – a new position, new location, new toy, new lingerie/whatever-the-word-for-male-lingerie-is.

Now remember, you’re gonna have vanilla most of the time. But make sure you treat yourself to some gourmet Ben & Jerry’s occasionally. And I mean that literally, special occasions are the perfect time for something new! Valentine’s Day, anniversaries, birthdays, National Donut Day, whatever!

Dark Chocolate

eating-chocolate-1-1316272-639x275This last one wasn’t even on my list until this week. I don’t know about you, but I love dark chocolate. Do you remember those Dove chocolate commercials where eating a small piece of their dark chocolate was like taking a quick vacation right in the middle of the work day? Yeah, that’s me.

Dark chocolate is emotional, comforting sex. It’s slow, it’s tender, it’s heart-felt. Not long ago, Keelie and I had several very heart-wrenching things happening in our life all at once. One night when we came together, there was just this outpouring of emotion that I don’t think we’ve ever experienced.

Sex can be a huge comfort to a hurting spouse. It can even be a way of bonding over a mutual heartache. This dark chocolate sex can be a wonderful way of serving your spouse.  

On a side note: Jay Dee had some interesting words of caution about leaning too heavily on sex for comfort.

What about you? What flavors have you discovered? Share some with us in the comments.

Foreplay Moves That Will Actually Turn You On

I have no idea why I even bother with Google anymore…. I feel the entire internet is crawling with less than helpful articles. I just read 3 articles on foreplay that sounds like a 15 year old wrote them.

The lack of creativity that I read in “spice it up” posts is enough to make me realize that the need for real tips is legit.

So, here are some foreplay moves you can try out tonight that will actually turn you on.

Nipple action for him and her

Don’t neglect the husband’s nipples or the wife’s nipples. If you haven’t taken the time to suck, lick, or lightly bite one another’s nipples, then it’s time you do. This is going to require some communication, because your spouse may have sensitive nipples.

Start out gently swirling your tongue around their nipple. Going at them too hard can cause over stimulation. If it feels good to them, then start sucking some.

Work your way up to gently biting. You can hold their nipple between your teeth and move your tongue back and forth if biting it too intense.

Lick and suck on their belly button

Here’s a foreplay move that I’ve NEVER heard anyone talk about. If your spouse has a sensitive belly button, this can be a great turn on for them. To see if this is an erogenous zone for your lover, put your tongue in their belly button and move it around some.

If they like it, then you can move to creating a suction over their belly button with your mouth. Place your mouth over their belly button and suck in like you are trying to drink from a straw.

Suck on and gently bite their earlobe

Kiss and lick your spouses body

Take the bottom of their earlobe into your mouth and suck on it some. Hold their earlobe in your mouth between your teeth and rub your tongue back and forth. Wet down their lobe and then gently blow on it- or better yet, whisper something sexy in their ear.

Kiss and lick their neck

Start kissing all over their back of their neck. I wouldn’t suggest the front of their neck, because it might break their concentration if you get on their throat. However, stay on the back and side with kissing. Move to licking and sucking. (Hickies are optional)

Ladies- play with his balls using your hands and tongue

This is something specific the ladies can do for their husband. Gently hold his balls in your hands and move the balls back and forth. You can also kiss his balls (guys you might want to shave for this) or lick them.

Here’s a great post from J about making most of his manhood and outlining how to play with his balls.

Men- gently rub her clitoris with lube

Rub your spouses body with your hands

Here’s a specific thing men can do. Put lubrication on your fingers and gently rub her clitoris or the area around it. Please don’t rub on her clitoris without lube….because she will likely hate it. Lube is completely necessary- spit isn’t going to work.

I won’t re-invent the wheel on this one, because El Fury wrote a really great post on how to rub a clitoris.

Kiss and lick their back

You can seriously just put kiss and lick almost all of the parts of their body on the list. Explore your spouse’s body with your tongue and lips. This will help you both figure out where their erogenous zones are. It is going to be different on each person.

Play with erogenous zones through silk material

Place a silky type of material over your erogenous zones such as breast, nipples, penis, vagina, etc. and gently rub across those areas. The light tickling feeling may be very stimulating for your spouse. You could also gently rub the silk materials over those areas to see how they respond.

Oral sex

I don’t want to leave some of the more obvious types of foreplay off the table. Oral sex can be a great way to start and finish your spouse. Just be sure that you discuss ahead of time if this is how they want to finish, and if so, what will they do for you.

Ladies- check out this Oral Sex How To by J over at Hot Holy Humorous.

Look at your spouse pleasing you in a mirror

Use a mirror during sex

I’m all for mirrors in the bedroom. While your spouse is licking, sucking, biting, rubbing, the various areas of your body, look into a mirror. If you don’t have one that you can see in on your wall, then use a hand held mirror. In fact, a smaller mirror can be just as effective.

Rub your body over theirs

Just rub your body all over theirs. Have them lay on their stomach and you can rub your chest all over them. Then they can flip to their back and you can repeat the process.

I realize this is not all of the foreplay moves that you can try with your spouse. I stayed away from anal play altogether, because frankly, I think it is unsanitary.

Here’s the thing with foreplay, your spouse is going to like different things than you do. The best thing you can do is to try different things for them. Also, they need to really be listening to their body as you give them pleasure so that they can tell you what they think will feel good.

I hope that you enjoy the next time that you spend on foreplay and try out some of these ideas.

Sexy Truth Or Dare Bedroom Game

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Sex Toys For Men That Enhance Intimacy in Marriage

There are a lot of sex toys for men on the market that I wouldn’t recommend. Often times, these toys are designed for solo sex and there is no place for that in marriage. However, there are some toys on the market that are designed to help a husband and wife enjoy their time of intimacy better.

I’ve talked about sex toys before and shared that there are some on the market that can enhance your time with your spouse. If one or both of you struggles to reach orgasm, some of these toys can help you with that.

I wanted to highlight a few of these sex toys for men and share with you the purpose of them.

Sleeves or Hand Strokers

A penis sleeve or hand stroker can be used by your wife to stimulate you. Once you are erect, she can place the sleeve on you and bring you to orgasm that way. This type of toy can add a lot to her giving you a hand job.

If your wife is not able to have intercourse with you for some reason, this can be a good solution for you guys to connect sexually. In turn, you can use a vibrator on her as a way to please her.

This is a good solution for when she is on her period, certain times in her pregnancy, or if she is dealing with some other physical ailment. If she has been put on pelvic rest due to pregnancy or UTI, then you need to clear it with a doctor before you use a vibrator on her.

Power Stroker 

Stud Stroker:

You may find that this is a great addition to your sexual repertoire to change things up in the bedroom.

Penis Rings

Did you ever walk into a bathroom and see this type of sex toy being sold on the wall? I haven’t seen anything like that in a long time, but I used to.

Honestly, I didn’t understand this type of toy until I talked with the owner of Married Dance. He told me that it is really for those that struggle to keep their erections. This is not a toy that is designed for a male that has a strong erection the entire time.

Penis Ring 

Penis Pumps

This is another type of toy that can help men that suffer from ED or find it hard to get an erection. The penis pump is designed to help pull blood into your penis so that you can get an erection.

There are other factors that can keep you from getting hard, such as stress, being tired, and reactions from medications. Using a pump can help you become stimulated enough so that you can have sex.

Ultimate Sta-Hard Kit

Like I said at the start, there are plenty of toys on the market for men that are not beneficial to your marriage bed. These toys are made for guys to masturbate with or play out fantasies on their own. The toys I’ve highlighted are designed to enhance your time together.

3 Things You Can Do To Spice Up Your Sex Life

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Tell Your Spouse You Want to Have Sex

Have you ever tried to initiate lovemaking and it your spouse didn’t respond the way you were hoping? I think we have all been there a time or two on this one.
You think you have clearly communicated your desires, but your spouse doesn’t pick up on it. One of the biggest areas couples struggle to communicate well in, is in their sex life. In the movies, everyone seems to be on the same page with sexual desires.

Here in the real world, it is much different than that.

In movies, if you see someone start kissing, you know they are going to take their clothes off. In the real world, you aren’t going to have sex every time you kiss. This is why I think it can become so confusing for a couple.
You are likely going to show some amount of physical affection towards your spouse that doesn’t lead to intercourse.
How are they supposed to know the difference between you getting a little hot and heavy and actually wanting to take to the next step if you don’t come out and say it?

Can We Have Sex?

Maybe you don’t feel it will kill the moment for you to use the words, “Can we have sex?”, but I think it is better to be clear with your intentions then to walk away disappointed when you try to initiate and your spouse doesn’t understand.
You might decide you want to come up with some code words to let your spouse know you are in the mood. Then you can have that conversation earlier in the night so that you both have a chance to mentally prepare for physical intimacy later on.

Related Post: Use Your Words When You Want Sex

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Rear Entry and Oral Sex Positions For Her

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Here’s the thing about sex positions- most of them suck. I mean seriously, you can’t get into these positions if your life depended on it.

Now, not all positions are unreasonable. There are definitely different positions you and your spouse can get into to maximize your enjoyment.

My Suggestion About Trying New Sex Positions

If you want to try a new sex position, I suggest that you have a backup plan. Just because something looks doable, it might not work out. It’s ok if you can’t get into the position, or if you can, it doesn’t do much for you.

Another thing to consider, is that most sex positions that are doable are great for guys, but not always for women. Consider doing something to bring the wife to orgasm before trying the new position. It can actually make the position feel better for her, because she’s excited.

If there is a way to incorporate a vibrator into the position, that can make it more exciting for the wife. Bullet and egg vibrators are small enough for this purpose.

Oral Sex Positions For Her

Oral sex can be really amazing for a woman if she gets in the right frame of mind and the right position. I put together a free pdf describing some of the different positions a woman get in for oral sex. There aren’t pictures in the pdf, so if you have questions, feel free to contact me and I’ll explain more.

OralSexPositionsForHer

Something to consider with oral sex, is that you should arch your back in some way while your husband stimulates your clitoris. By arching your back, it will tighten up your clit and make what he is doing feel better. So, if you are sitting on his face, then you should try leaning backwards.

Related Post: How to Feel More Giving and Receiving Oral Sex

Girl On Top Rear Entry

Having a husband enter his wife from behind can be very visually stimulating as well as helps him go deeper. The problem is that this position can be too deep for her comfort. That is why girl on top can be a good idea, because it gives her depth control.

As a note, when you are trying a rear entry position, if you the husband is having a hard time getting in his wife, it is a good idea to use lubrication. Lube will make it easier.

Here is a free pdf that explains the way to do this position.

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If the wife feels like rear entry is too deep, the husband can stay still and she can move. Even if she is not in the girl on top position, she can move.

These are a few different positions that you can try that are doable. Hopefully one will work well for you.

If you are looking for more excitement in your bedroom- check out my ebook

Sexy Truth Or Dare

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Why I Won’t Tell You Being Tied up is Ok

I’m just going to go ahead and say it…I don’t want to write this post. In light of fifty shades of grey, I feel like I must. I am a marriage blogger, after all, and this topic is bound to come up between couples.

I Won’t Support or Refute These Acts With Scripture

Today I’m talking about the idea of bondage and discipline as a form of play and why I can’t promote this type of physical intimacy between a couple. I’m not here to tell you that this type of act is right or wrong. I’m not going to argue whether or not scripture permits or discourages this type of intimate play.

What I am talking about today is why I can’t write an article promoting a couple explore this form of intimacy.

We All Want to Know if There Are Intimate Acts That Are Wrong

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One of the questions I asked my mom before I got married, was whether there were types of intimate acts that were wrong. She told me that bringing other people in the bedroom in any way, shape or form, was adultery. That would include flicks showing couples being intimate, having fantasies of others, or inviting real people to join you.

I’m very glad that I had a mom who was willing to let me ask the hard questions. She gave me honest answers. She told me that as long as I honored God in my intimate life, then there wasn’t anything we shouldn’t try.

You Have the Right to Say “No”

Of course, she told me that I always had the right to tell my husband “no” about acts that I wasn’t comfortable with. As a single person, whom had never been physical with a man, I had no idea what types of acts that might be. I went into marriage open minded about exploring my husband’s body without shame.

The Lifestyle Portrayed in Television is Not All There Is

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I didn’t know much about bondage or discipline before I was married. The only depictions I had ever seen was on CSI or other detective shows. Everything you see on television shows a pretty perverted view.

You know what I’m talking about, don’t you? People visit dungeons to engage in acts with others that they are not married to. Not only that, all the acts seem dark and disgusting. It is always portrayed that these people are playing out these fantasies that are not acceptable in real life.

There Are People Who Have a Healthy Experience With This Type of Play

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In the recent years, I’ve read articles about light bondage and how Christian couples have enjoyed this type of engagement. Don’t ask me to explain light bondage, because I am not sure what that consist of. I know there are those that engage in dominant role playing, use handcuffs to restrain, or other forms of this type of play in a respectful way.

However, I can’t and won’t tell you that being tied up or disciplined is ok. Here’s why…

I have no idea what kind of relationship you are in. Everything I have read about people who play around with handcuffs, discipline role play or other intimate acts, say you have to trust the person you are with.

I don’t know you and I don’t know who you plan to act out with. How do I know if you have a trustworthy partner? For that reason, I’m not going to tell you it is ok.

I think that anyone who agrees to be tied up or restrained is putting themselves in a very vulnerable position. A lot could go wrong in this situation, even between responsible, trustworthy adults.

You have to decide about the morality factor of it through prayer and reading your Bible.

Your safety is my biggest concern.

There is no way that I can tell people whom I don’t know to put themselves in this position. With this topic, it is not a matter of whether this is right or wrong. It is a matter of trust. People that you think you can trust, prove you wrong. I don’t want you fully exposed and tied up only to find out you’re with someone who wasn’t trustworthy.

Violence is on the Rise

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With the rise in violence that is portrayed in porn, I’m even more concerned about saying bondage is ok. Porn is a big problem for women and men of all ages. With the unfiltered access our kids and we as adults have to porn flicks, the problem will get worse.

Let’s be clear, I don’t watch porn, but I’ve done enough research to know that film makers are incorporating more violence and degrading acts. This is at the outcry of those that watch it. Maybe you know that many of the acts are based on fantasy. However, a lot of the scenes show rough sex and degrading acts that are sure to distort your view of healthy sex.

It looks so real, and a lot more of it is not staged than you want to know. Violent bondage, discipline, choking, and name calling are depicted. You put a sexually charged individual that has spent a lot of time watching violent porn in a position of authority over someone else, and things can go seriously wrong.

I know my point of view sounds cynical, but it’s truth.

These thoughts are what I’ve had to consider when writing an article on bondage. I can tell you that you should only do this type of play with someone that you trust. How do I know you’re with someone who won’t hurt you? I don’t. I’m not going to be the convincing reason to put you in a place you don’t need to be.

Here is what I can do, I can ask you questions that will help you decide if this is the best choice for you. I wrote a post that outlines some questions you can ask yourself when you are thinking of a new sexual experience to try. You can read it HERE.

Why I Do Not Engage in This Type of Intimacy

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I feel that it is only fair that you know where I personally stand on this in my sex life. I do not engage in acts of discipline or bondage for a few reasons. None of which have anything to do with my personal Christian convictions. I’m not saying scripture does support it or doesn’t. The truth is, I don’t have a position on it at this time.

However, these are the top reasons I do not do engage in this type of sexual play.

-I have a genetic disorder. It causes my shoulders to come out of joint easily. Holding my arms above my head or behind my back can cause my arms to slip out of socket. I don’t chance doing anything that will make this happen.

-I’m pretty claustrophobic. There is more that goes into claustrophobia than being in small spaces. It is more about being in a situation that you can’t physically get out of. The thought of being tied up causes me to panic. Never mind I have the most trustworthy spouse on the planet, it doesn’t matter, I am sure I’d freak.

-I suck at role playing. For someone that loves the stage and acting, I really suck at performing in front of a one person audience. This is likely the lamest reason that I don’t jump at the chance to be tied up or act like a disciplinarian. Mainly, the first two reasons are why I’ve dismissed the idea of trying. Physically and mentally for me, it wouldn’t create a healthy atmosphere.

Pray About Your Intimate Life

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Not sure whether or not you should get involved in a sex act? Pray about it. I know that may sound a bit weird to you, but God created sex. Not only that, He sees everything you do in the bedroom. If you want to feel freedom in your sex life and honor God, then pray about. Read your Bible and really listen to what God has to say to you.

 

 


These are my thoughts on BDSM. What about you? What do you think about these types of acts? What would you tell others about this topic?

Take Turns Giving and Receiving Pleasure

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Men’s Lingerie and Sexy Outfits

Here’s the truth- there are clothing pieces out there that are classified as men’s lingerie. I’m not sure if these are jokes or if there are guys that really feel sexy in these things or not. Most of the lingerie I see for guys are kind of like underwear with a protruding from the front so that a guy can fill it up.

Maybe that type of underwear is not your style, but that doesn’t mean you can’t look sexy for your wife. I think it is very sweet for a man to take the time and energy to look good for his woman. Women absolutely appreciate it when their husband’s put extra time into their appearance.

I have put together some ideas of what you can wear in the bedroom or during a romantic night after the kids go to bed.

Men’s Lingerie Alternatives

I’m a huge proponent of wearing sexy outfits as an alternative to lingerie. I don’t think that everyone can fit into the things that are on the market. So, I’ve applied that same principle to men’s lingerie.

Underwear and Boxers

Consider having boxers or underwear that you wear specifically during sexy nights. At the very least, keep your holy underwear put away for days you aren’t trying to impress.

Silk boxers or silk underwear can feel really amazing to you and your wife. It will feel great to your body and to her hands. These won’t be practical underwear, but something you can put on special for your lover.

Bow Ties and Suspenders

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Another sexy idea is to just wear a bow tie or pair it with suspenders. You can attach the suspenders to a pair of pants and go without a shirt. Or you can attach the suspenders to your underwear.

If you don’t like suspenders, just wear a pair of solid color boxers with a matching colored bow tie. Black is always easy to match.

Hat

Going along with the accessory idea, you can wear a hat and a pair of boxers or jeans without a shirt. If you don’t want to go with something around your neck, this might be a great option for you.

Make sure to go with a hat that matches your style. Fedoras are pretty popular, but it doesn’t mean it is right for everyone. Some guys look amazing in ball caps or cowboy hats.

Tight T-Shirts

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Consider putting on a tight t-shirt with a pair of jeans or your boxers. You can go with something that is dark and slimming, or white and revealing. There are also compression shirts that you might like. Even if you are not a real buff guy, this can be very sexy.

Tight Sweatpants

Sweatpants have come a long way for men. Did you know you can get low rise pants as well as other sexy sweatpants? If you are going for comfort or for a more casual night, these might make for a good option. Pair with a tight t-shirt or go without a shirt.

Sexy Jeans

While tight fitting jeans may not be something that you want to wear on a regular basis, but it can be a great idea for a night of romance. Sexy jeans without a shirt or with a tight fitting shirt would be a good option for your at home date night.

These are some ideas of sexy things you can wear with your spouse on a romantic night. You can always ask your wife what she finds most attractive on you and get her opinion. She might be able to help you come up with lingerie ideas.

Here are some fun things you can do while wearing your sexy outfit.

Sexy Things You Can Do While Wearing Lingerie

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Sexy Things You Can Do When Wearing Lingerie

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I don’t know about you, but if I take the time to get dressed up for my husband, I don’t want to see my clothes in a pile on the floor in 7.2 seconds. That is why I have been working to come up with sexy things we can do together while we are wearing lingerie.

Btw, if you struggle to find lingerie that fits or that you think you look good in, I always suggest wearing a sexy outfit. It doesn’t have to fit you well or be expensive, since you won’t wear it out of your home.

Check out this cute dress I found on Amazon. It is stretchy and has a really fun back to it. This dress was cute, too, and had a cute back.

Here are some of my ideas:

Dance Together

Put on some music that both of you can dance to. It can be something that is really upbeat. Or you can go with slow songs that will let you feel your bodies together rub together in your lingerie.

I really enjoy listening to instrumental jazz music when we are having a romantic time together. This is one of my favorite soundtracks on YouTube.


I also like dancing to this love song. It is my absolute favorite love song of all time. Born out of the 90’s baby- coming straight at you- is Savage Garden.

Dance For Your Spouse

Another fun thing to do while wearing lingerie, is to dance for your spouse. I know that this can really take people outside of their comfort zone. It’s ok if you try and end up laughing like a hyena- I know I do. Just go with something that you like dancing to.

This is always a fun one to dance to.

Have a Romantic Dinner

Whether you camp out on the floor together or sit down at a table, put together a romantic dinner for two. Put the kids to bed, and then put on your sexy clothes. After you have had a meal together, it makes it easy to slide into after dinner fun. 

Make Out

When is the last time you engaged in a make out session with your spouse? A lot of times, pro-longed kissing doesn’t happen, because you are so busy getting to sex. Take some time and commit to making out with one another.

Give Each Other Massages

Consider starting out giving one another massages while wearing your sexy outfits. Then you can start stripping down as things heat up.

If you are looking for step by step instructions of how to give your spouse the best massage ever. You can check out more about Melt Massage and see if it is right for you. I have personally loved using these videos with my husband.

Play Sexy Truth or Dare

You can play any number of sexy bedroom games while you are wearing lingerie. It is a lot of fun to talk about sexual things while you are looking and feeling good about yourself.

If you would like to get my free printable bedroom games- including sexy truth or dare, be sure to sign up for my newsletter. You will receive the link to my free bedroom game printable library right away.

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How to Feel Sexy

It can be so hard to feel sexy when you have been taking care of other people all day long. Especially if you the mom of young kids, you spend your whole day doing a lot of non-sexy things.

Today, I’m writing over at Calm Healthy Sexy for Gaye. She invited me to speak to her audience about things you can do to feel sexier. I hope you’ll check out what I have to say about it over there.

7 Ways to Feel Sexier

Ways to Look Sexy

Sex Positions Roundup

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If you are looking for new sex positions, I want to share with you a resource I trust. Christian Friendly Sex Positions is a great website that aims to share different positions you can try without porn or vulgar language.

They have hundreds of positions, but I want to highlight a few today.

Oral Sex Positions

Here are a few different positions you can get into for giving and receiving oral sex.

For her:

Breakfast at Tiffany’s

Blazing Saddles

Under the Sink

Need tips on how to give your wife better oral sex? Check out what El Furry from Married Christian Sex has to say about How to Rub a Clitoris.

Using a vibrator can really help you to bring your wife to orgasm if oral sex isn’t getting her there. Here is a great choice for a first vibrator: Satin Scoop 

For him:

Southern Exposure

Plumber

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Sex in a Chair

Sex in a chair

If you have the right type of chair, you can consider having sex while seated. You will need to have one without arms, or you have the ability to get your legs through the arm holes. Also, it needs to be short enough for you to sit on top of your spouse and still move.

Hobbyhorse– in a rocking chair

Packing the suitcase

Otto-man

Rear Entry

There are different positions you can get into to make rear entry a lot of fun. Here are a few you can try.

Leg Slider

Crowded Sleeping Car

When in Doubt

Husband On Top

Who says guy on top sex positions are not fun? These might be a few you will want to try.

Perpen-dic-ular

Bunny Slope

Multi-tasking executive

Wife on Top

Here are a few wife on top positions you can do together.

Lazy Love Seat

Can You Feel Me Now?

Locked Cowgirl

Things to Keep In Mind When Trying a New Sex Position

I wanted to personally put together this list of positions you can try. There are a lot of positions out there that are impossible to do. I read the descriptions and most of these seem fairly do-able. Obviously, each couple will have their own challenges physically.

Before you and your spouse enter into your time of intimacy, pick out two or three things to try out. It is best to have these things decided on ahead of time so that you know exactly what you are going to do when you start your time of intimacy.

It is also a good idea to give yourself a little extra time. If you are trying out different things, you need to give yourself plenty of time to experiment.

Make Sure Your Sexual Needs Get Met

Since there is no way to guarantee that a new position will bring one or both of you to orgasm, be sure to meet one another’s sexual needs. If something isn’t working, just stop and do something different. You might end up just going back to the things that are old standbys.

It is ok if you try stuff out that doesn’t work. The important thing is to be adventurous with your lover and getting into different positions can be a great way to do that.

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