This week, I have received this question more then once, do men enjoy using mirrors during sex? I asked my husband Austin to come on and answer this question from his perspective.
Here’s what he has to say-
Do men enjoy using mirrors during sex?
Yes. Yes we do.
Ok, maybe we need more than that as an answer.
As always, I’ll begin with the disclaimer that not all men are the same. We talk a lot about gender generalities (genderalities? No that’s dumb.). But just because something is true of most/a lot of men doesn’t mean it’s true of all men.
Guys, if none of the following things are true of you, that’s cool. You be you. Ladies, if you’re wondering about this, go back to our core principle – Communicate, communicate, communicate.
That being said, why would men enjoy using mirrors during sex? Well, there’s a few reasons.
We’ll get more into the specifics of how this pertains to mirrors in the next section. However, I always want to start here. I’m constantly saddened at what the culture is teaching girls and women about their bodies. So many women are ashamed of their looks.
So ladies, always remember this. Your husband thinks you’re hot. He thinks you’re sexy. He likes your body. Let him see it. Be visually generous. Be confident. Remember that when you get naked, your husband loves it.
We’re visually oriented
A lot of guys are very visually stimulated. This is why porn is typically more popular with men, while erotic fiction is more popular with women. With the rising availability and mainstreaming of porn, this trend seems to be changing, btw.
Guys like to look. We want to see your body, all of it. We want to see different angles. We want to see you in different positions. Mirrors can allow for this. It’s impossible to see a side view without a mirror, and that can be incredibly erotic.
For some couples, using mirrors kind of takes things to a new level. It’s going on an adventure, which we’re huge fans of in all areas of the marriage. It can be an interesting next step in exploring openness and engagement in sex.
Maybe you’re a couple that started out having very hidden sex. By that I mean sex in the dark, under the covers, etc. Hopefully you’ve moved beyond that, turning on the lights and enjoying the sight of each other’s bodies. Mirrors provide another step in that direction, allowing you to see each other even better.
If you’re trying something new in the bedroom in general, using mirrors can be great as well. Say you’re trying out our Sexy Truth or Dare for Couples. Get a good look at the new things you’re discovering together.
As for engagement, mirrors can help you connect more during sex. Certain positions don’t lend themselves well to eye contact. Using a mirror can help overcome that. Get into a spot where you can both see each other, and all of a sudden you’re able to connect in a way you never have.
Objects may appear larger than you thought
I’ve mentioned that a lot of women have body image issues. Men are not immune from this. One area in particular where this is felt quite strongly is penis size. Lots of things have been written about this, but suffice it to say, it’s a big deal. Some of this is caused by simple angle problems.
Looking straight down at ourselves can give us a slightly distorted understanding of what’s actually going on down there.
Seeing from a side view changes all this. Pulling yourself into third person, so to speak, gives a more objective look at things. This is particularly true during oral sex. Ladies, it might not make sense, but it is all a perception thing. Guys, once you try it, you’ll get it.
Guys, have I missed anything? I asked around a bit and got some good insight, but I may have missed some things. Are there any other benefits of using mirrors during sex? Sound off in the comments below.