If you haven’t had a chance to get a copy of our Creative Conversation Starters for Couples, now’s a great time. The ebook version is currently free on Amazon. It will be free to download until Monday.
This book has 10 chapters that are designed to get you and your spouse talking. The focused topics will help you have great discussions and hopefully learn something new about one another.
Check it out on Amazon today. Don’t wait to get it, because it won’t be free forever.
If you haven’t had a chance to get our ebook Sexy Truth or Dare: Bedroom Game For Couples, now is a great time to do it. It is currently on sale for $0.99 on Amazon.
The ebook version is set up to alternate truths and dares on each page of the book. Players do 1 truth and 1 dare on their turn.
There are 10 total chapters, which allow you to play 10 rounds of the game. You can either play one set at a time or do a few sets. Be sure to grab your copy today!
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I had the great privilege of being interviewed by Belah Rose on the Delight Your Marriage podcast. She and I talked about how a woman can orgasm. We talk about the dilemmas that they experience and how to handle those set backs.
About 3 years ago, I lost 30 pounds over the course of 9 months. I’ve been able to keep the weight off since then. Two months ago, I made some major diet changes that resulted in me losing another 10 pounds. I’ve never been this small in my life.
I think that weight gain happens so gradually, that it can be hard to notice how difficult it can make things…including sex.
So, does it feel different to have sex after you’ve lost weight? The answer depends on how much weight you’ve lost. Basically, if you drop down a clothing size, you are going to notice some changes.
Here’s some of the things you can expect to feel different when you lose weight-
The less weight you are carrying, the easier it is to breathe in general. If you are easily winded during sex, losing the extra weight can make a big difference for you.
If your spouse loses weight, it can also make it easier for you to breathe. The less weight that you have laying on top of your chest, the easier it will be to breathe.
Many times, people will focus on exercising to help them lose weight. Increasing your exercise will help you have greater stamina during sex. Even if you don’t work out, having less body to move around will increase your stamina.
Increased stamina can result in stronger orgasms for both husband and wife. It can also help a wife reach multiple orgasms. It takes a lot of physical exertion to have more than one orgasm.
I was talking with Jay Dee, over at Uncovering Intimacy earlier about this. He said that carrying extra weight can reduce the length of a man’s penis. It is estimated that 30 pounds extra can cover up to an inch of a man’s penis.
Also, the more weight you lose, the less body mass there is to get in the way of connection. Thinner thighs, smaller stomach, longer penis- all contribute to deeper penetration.
Losing weight can open up different sex positions. The less you weigh, the more mobility you will have. Not only is mobility increased, but less body mass can make some positions do-able that weren’t before.
A few months ago, Crystal Paine, from The Money Saving Mom, was talking about her health goals. All summer, I watched her beef up through weight lifting. It was hugely inspirational. Meeting those goals lead her to work on other aspect of her health.
She has struggled with allergies, acne, and eczema for years. It was her goal to figure out how to clear up those conditions and get off the medicines she was taking for it. She shared how she started working with a nutritionist and radically changed her diet. Those changes helped her get off the medicines she was on.
I’ve struggled with asthma, allergies, and eczema my entire life. I was so inspired by her discipline, that I decided challenge myself to give up-
While I haven’t given these three things up completely, I only allow myself to eat one cheat meal with these ingredients once a week.
Here’s what I found- when I cut these things out of my diet, it greatly reduces my asthma trouble. It also keeps me from having to take as many allergy pills. I don’t know how it has affected my eczema yet, because I generally break out in the summer.
Since I didn’t make these changes to lose weight, I didn’t immediately notice I had dropped a few pounds. One day, I got on the scale and was very surprised that I was down 4 pounds. To date, I’ve lost 10 pounds. I have no idea if I’ll keep losing or not, but I have no intentions of giving up my diet change.
What have you done to lose weight that has been working?
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Being enthusiastic in the bedroom has great benefits to both you and your spouse. For one thing, your spouse feels happy that you are excited to be with them. Also, it helps you to feel more sexy and have a better time.
Here are some ways you can be more enthusiastic about sex.
There’s something to faking it till you make it. I’m not suggesting you fake orgasm, but I am suggesting that you fake enthusiasm until your mind and body have a chance to catch up.
While you are getting ready to have sex, tell yourself that you are excited about it. Think positively about the experience you are about to have. When you go into a situation believing it is going to be great, you usually enjoy it more.
Whether you initiate the sexual encounter or initiate different foreplay moves and positions, it will help you feel more excited about what you are doing. When you make a conscious decision to do something or brainstorm ideas, it will naturally cause you to be more engaged.
Rather than just staying in the same position, commit to trying more than one position on a regular basis. Be sure that you and your spouse do a position that leaves you both satisfied at the end. However, you can start with a position that you haven’t tried before.
While you are engaging in sexual intimacy, be intentional about making noises or talking. It is a good idea that you and your spouse have some conversations ahead of time about what words turn you on. Also, it is good to know at what point they want you to be vocal verses when they want you to be more quiet.
By talking and making noises, you are actually helping yourself have the ability to have a stronger orgasm. The more air flows through your body, the better your orgasm will be. So, in addition to helping you be more enthusiastic, it will give you greater pleasure.
Make it a point to look in your lover’s eyes during some part of your sexual experience. You don’t have to try and keep your eyes open when it is really feeling good, but at least during some point, look at them. This will allow you both to connect on a deeper level.
It is totally normal to forget to smile when you are having sex. Many couples struggle with remembering to put on a happy face. I’m not sure if it is a concentration thing or what. Be intentional about smiling at your spouse.
I encourage you to make it a point to be more enthusiastic while making love. It will be a blessing to both you and your spouse.
Other things on my mind this week-
Sexy Stocking Stuffer Ideas For Him and Her
Tantalizing Treats- Bedroom Game For Couples
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I had the great privilege of being interviewed on the Power of Purity podcast with Tony Ingrassia. He is passionate about helping men and women deal with pain in their marriage and go deeper in sexual intimacy.
In the first episode he released, we talked about duty sex, sexual baggage, and initiating sex with your spouse. Next week, he’ll release the second half where we talk more about initiating and how to master that if you are shy.
Be sure to check us out on his website and listen in as we discuss these sensitive topics.
With Christmas right around the corner, I wanted to give you some great romantic gift ideas for your spouse. You can head over to Love Hope Adventure where I wrote about 15 ideas.
If you have anything you want to suggest or add to this list, be sure to leave a message in the comments section. I’d love to check it out.
Want some fun ideas of things you can do outside the bedroom with your spouse? Check out this list of activities that I put together.
It is so important to spend time with your spouse, making memories and having fun.
I’ve received question after question from my readers asking how they can feel sexy again. This is definitely an issue for both men and women. Here are some things you can do to feel great about yourself again.
The worst thing for your body image is to look at porn, sexy images, or sex scenes. Besides your body image, this plain isn’t good for your marriage. With the amount of camera angles and editing, it is almost impossible to ever look like those images.
Re-train your brain to see yourself as sexy. The more you see yourself without clothes on or in sexual scenarios with your spouse, you will start to believe it. This will only be beneficial to you if you have cut the other influences out of your life. Otherwise, you’ll just confirm how unsexy you feel.
Start by looking at yourself naked for a few minutes a day. Really pay attention to the way your body looks. Focus your eyes on every inch of your body, rather than avoid areas.
Sexiness starts in the mind. Tell yourself again and again that you are sexy. When you are looking at yourself in the mirror, say it. Say it when you are having sex. Say it when you don’t feel it. Just keep telling yourself that you look sexy. Eventually, you will start to believe it.
Stop believing that there is only one type of sexy out there. Lingerie not working for you? Try alternatives to it. You can read more about some lingerie alternatives in the post I wrote.
Whatever you find to wear, put on something you feel great in. This goes for both men and women. Guys, go here to read a few ideas of what you can wear in the bedroom.
Get out of routine love making and mix things up. Do things that will get you moving around and excited. Spend more time on foreplay and soak up the way it makes you feel.
Related: How to Spice Things Up Tonight
Consider playing a bedroom game, or try a new sex position to get in the mood. When you are doing sexy things, it can help you feel that way.
What would you suggest? Let me know in the comments section.
Do you and your spouse still flirt with each other? It seems to come so naturally when you are in your dating years, but can fade away the longer you are married.
Why is flirting in marriage important? It’s like foreplay to foreplay. That flirtatious spirit will help you stay connected to your lover.
Read what Austin says about it in this post on
