If you love Christian Friendly Sex Positions, then you are going to love this! The owner of the site created a printable of sex positions that you can download. It’s a great resource that allows you to print out the positions and use them in the bedroom.
You can grab your copy of these printables below!
I LOOOOVE bedroom games. And you know what’s weird, I never saw myself as someone that would. The first bedroom game Austin and I ever created was the sexiest game we’ve made. I think I feel that way because it is the first game we ever played together. Man, it’s hard to re-create that night, but we like to try!
The game we made is called It’s Getting Hot in Here (so take off all your clothes). What I’ve loved about this game is that every time we’ve played it, it’s different, but just as sexy. All you do is print out the game board and cards, grab one die and use two small objects as markers for the board. Every roll, you move a few spaces and do what
Austin and I came up with the foreplay moves for the game, but we also created a version that allows you to write in your own ideas. You can grab it here. Honestly, it was super hot to come up with our own ideas. It made us feel so excited about playing the game later.
I get asked all the time why someone would want to do __________ in the bedroom. The blank has ranged from things like oral to anal to light bondage, etc. You get the picture. Ever since I started writing for my marriage blog, I’ve tried to keep a really open mind about the things that couples do together that bring intimacy.
Now, I’m not talking about things that are touted as “spicing things up” that genuinely cause division. Things like porn, threesomes, or anything that makes one person feel degraded. What I am talking about are things that are on a couple’s mind to be intimate.
For example, I know couples that like to use blindfolds or have their hands lightly bond to the bedposts. That’s not something I’m going to feel comfortable with, but I know these couples are enjoying time together in an intimate way where both feel clean before God.
But, then it happened…I was sooooo judgemental! I read a question on a friend’s blog about something in the bedroom that I just thought, why would anyone want to do that? And honestly, it’s not my place. It’s that type of judgment that keeps people from sharing their questions with others.
So, friends, I apologize. I want to say sorry for my internal reaction to reading what someone else desires in the bedroom. And, I’m going to be on guard against those thoughts so that I am someone you can trust with your questions.
Ok, I have to admit, my least favorite thing about lingerie shopping is seeing it on other women. It makes me feel bad about my body and I know for a fact I will not look like that person. Not only that, it’s impossible for my husband to actually look for lingerie for me.
I’m so excited about Honoring Intimates for this reason. They sent me some lingerie a few months ago. Their lingerie has their own tags on them so they are porn free. Not only that, they take the pictures of the items on mannequins so you can see what it looks like without seeing real boobs.
It’s perfect for the husband that wants to look for new things for their wife without seeing naked women. Also, a wife can go and look for something special without feeling bad about her own body.
Here’s a few of the pieces in the shop you might want to check out. They have many more.
Revering Rebecca Open Cup Babydoll
Lavendar Lana Bralette Set
I always like to put together a round up of deals that will help with your sex life and marriage for Black Friday. All of these deals start tomorrow and then stick around until Monday. Be sure to check them out before they go away.
You can head over Love Hope Adventure to see the full roundup.
If you are a woman that is having a hard time orgasming, I put together a few tips that will help you. These aren’t a guarantee that you will be able to reach that point, but there are a few things that you can try.
Focus on your body and how everything feels, otherwise, your mind will wander to everything that happened that day. Close your eyes if you need to and think about how your clitoris feels during the stimulation.
If you’re using a vibrator, start at a really slow speed. If you’re receiving oral or direct stimulation of another kind, start slow and build. When you’re having sex, start slow with moving and build. You should lay back and relax during that period so you’re not wearing yourself out to feel aroused.
Push past the burning feeling or the feeling of the urge to pee to get to orgasm. A lot of women stop before orgasm because they either feel a burning sensation or the need to pee. They might even feel like they will end up peeing.
To have your first orgasm, you have to push past the feeling. It’s really hard to mentally push past if you think you’re going to pee everywhere. So, a good thing to do is make sure your bladder is fully empty before sex, this way, it minimizes that feeling.
However, after you have had a few orgasms, that feeling is not nearly as intense and it turns to something that feels a lot more pleasurable. But honestly, the first couple orgasms don’t really feel all that great. And, they can leave you feeling a little disappointed. But, the more you have, the better it feels.
Hopefully, this helps you if you are struggling to have orgasms.
Sex toys get such a bad rap, and I understand why. A lot of bad images are conjured up when people start thinking about sex toys. But, the industry has changed tremendously. That’s why so many Christian married couples are choosing to buy sex toys.
There are no doubt toys on the market that are meant for you to masturbate and not to help a couple grow closer to intimacy. I know there are many people that think anytime you introduce a toy into the marriage bed, it replaces the need for the spouse. However, I haven’t found that to be true in my marriage. I believe that it is not the best choice for everyone.
But…vibrators, penis pumps, penis sleeves, cock rings, lubes and other marital aids have really helped couples to experience the joy of sex with one another. When you use these items together, it can bring a lot of satisfaction and connection.
Many years ago, I bought a vibrator. I wanted to try anal sex and I read that a vibrator would make it feel good for me. Also, I read that it can make the experience less painful. It’s all true by the way. If you are considering trying out anal, I do recommend a vibrator, and a lot of lube and a condom for your husband.
The majority of sex positions do not provide a woman with enough clitoral stimulation to orgasm. That’s one of the times that a vibrator is helpful for a couple.
There are many times a vibrator is a great option for a couple. Some of these times include:
If you have questions about vibrators or sex toys, feel free to send me a message at keelie@lovehopeadventure.com. You can also send me a message through the Love Hope Adventure Facebook page. I will do my best to answer or get the info you need.
If you’re ready to try one, I’ve got a few recommendations for you. I do want to issue a warning, it’s really important you buy sex toys from reputable sources because they are not regulated like other industries. That means they can be made of materials that are not healthy for your body. That’s why I send people to Married Dance, which is a Christian Friendly Sex Toy store. Everything they sell is in porn free packaging and made with quality materials.
The magic wand is actually a body massager that worked really well as a stimulator. Many couples like to buy this because it has a dual purpose. If they do not like it as a vibrator, they can still use it as a massager for their body.
The Lelo SONA is designed to specifically stimulate the clitoris. The great thing about it is that it is quiet. Many vibrators sound like a toothbrush buzzing. It also comes with a cable to recharge it so you don’t have to deal with batteries.
The Jelly Eager Beaver has dual stimulation. That means it vibrates inside and stimulates the outside as well. The good thing about this type is that you can use the part that is designed to go inside on your clitoris if you don’t feel comfortable with it inside.
Hopefully, this will help you decide if it is the right thing for you or not. It won’t be the best choice for everyone.
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There are so many not so sexy things that happen during sex. In fact, it can be quite comical in the moment if you aren’t too uptight about it (and I hope you’re not!). Sex in marriage isn’t meant to be perfect. It’s fun, exciting, comforting, messy, routine, mundane…a lot of things, but not perfect.
So, I thought I’d share 4 not so sexy things that can happen during real sex.
Someone feels sick
Ever start having sex and think, “I ate too much”. A full belly is the worst thing before sex. All the moving and pressure is enough to make your chili dog come up in your mouth. So gross. I can’t even count the number of times I regretted having a snack too close to bedtime.
Something gets kicked
Ever seen Hitch? I always think about the scene where he’s on a date and kicks the girl into the water whenever I’m trying to re-position in the bed. No matter how hard we try, every now and then, some body part gets kicked.
A child needs an answer
We lock our doors. We taught our kids to knock. They aren’t going to come in on us, but we’ve had to stop everything on many occasions to have full discussions with a child through the door. #moodkiller
Someone reaches their step goal
My fitbit has been known to throw many a party during a nice romp. Apparently, sexual motions are the same as walking motions. If you wear a fitbit, then I’m sure you know how much this can take you out of the moment.
Have anything embarrassing to add to the list of not so sexy things that happen during sex? Leave me a message in the comments. It’s nice to commiserate with those that get it.
Other things on my mind:
Just saw that The Dating Divas put 4 of their most popular books on sale for just $1. One of them is the Ultimate Date Night Book. I actually own the book. Two of my favorite dates from there is the bookstore date and the porch prom date. If you are looking for creative ideas that are fully fledged out for you, then you should check it out.
Check out this video I did showing off the book and the date ideas I like.
Go here to buy the book.
Chat later!
Want to know what one of the top libido killers is? Stress. And there’s a lot of it go around, am I right? Now, I get that we all have periods of stress in our lives, but if you live in a perpetual state of stressed out, you need to make changes.
How much would it change your life, mood, and family interactions if you could actually get enough done in a day? Imagine if you could get caught up and stay that way more often than not. Your stress levels would go way down.
If I’m not careful, I let myself get so sucked into my work and to-do’s that I forget how to have fun. When that happens, I feel like I have to force myself to do fun things and let go. There’s nothing wrong with that, but it happens naturally when I have a good handle on life.
Honestly, I’m not a huge proponent of productivity courses, apps, and materials. This is why I am not going to buy Crystal Paine’s 4 week course to a more productive life. However, Austin has done really really well with productivity systems. That just tells me that there are a lot of people out there that really need someone to give them action plans so they can put them in place.
I guess I’m not personally big on these types of things for the same reason I’m not going to buy a meal plan. But sooooo many people love meal plans and have huge success with them. So, if you are that kind of person- the one that does best when you have someone hand you a rock solid plan of how to get more done, then the productivity course is for you. I trust Crystal and I’ve paid for just about every course she’s ever put out. She’s legit.
If you’re interested, check out her course.
Other things on my mind this week:
I had a reader tell me they were trying to schedule sex, but it was falling flat. It made me realize that simply telling people to “schedule sex” isn’t enough. So, I wrote 3 ways you can make scheduled sex hot.
Also, I made a discovery on my website this week, husbands do genuinely want to please their wife sexually. Despite what culture has to say, men are not just having sex out of selfish ambition…and I’ve got the analytics to prove it.
Have a great week!
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One of my biggest tips for married couples is to schedule sex. A lot of people buck against me on that one, because they think it takes all the romance and excitement out of it. I think television has made us feel that way. If we don’t rip each other’s clothes off during a kissing frenzy, then it’s not amazing sex. I completely disagree. Scheduled sex can be super hot and here’s how.
Like anything else you put on your calendar, it’s important to remind each other about it. If your kid needs to get picked up at a different time, you’re going to send a reminder text right? Supposed to meet someone for dinner? You’re going to mention it before you part ways in the morning. You need to do the same thing on the days you are planning to have sex.
There are plenty of ways you can send sexy reminders to your spouse. You might send them a quick text that says, “can’t wait till later”. Or maybe you leave them a handwritten note in a place they’ll see it.
One of my favorite ways is to shoot a message through an app like Couple. If you establish this app as a place where you only write sexy things to your spouse, then they will know you are sending something steamy when they get the notification. Also, it’s password protected so no worries of the kids or folks at work seeing it.
I think a lot of couples abandon flirting after their dating years. What is flirting? I think of it as a loving ways to get your spouse’s attention. Maybe you give them a sexy look from across the room or say compliment the way they look. It could be a cheesy one liner or sweet hug and kiss.
One word of caution about flirting is that you need to learn what types of flirting your spouse responds to best. One of the biggest ways I see husbands flirt with their wives is to grab a boob. Not all women see copping a feel as flirting. Ask them what they like and aim to do those things.
Even if you are not home together, you can send a flirty text. You can call them on the phone for a few minutes and say something sweet to them.
Not sure what to text them? Check out these flirty texts from The Dating Divas.
Get each other warmed up before you get to the bedroom. This might be the time when grabbing a boob or pinching a butt is welcomed. It’s a lot of fun to rub on your spouse here and there leading up to bed.
Jay Dee over at Uncovering Intimacy talked about how he and his wife spent a day having sex. They ran off for a few minutes to indulge in a little foreplay. They would stop before he climaxed but would keep going if she could. Women can have multiple orgasms without the refractory period, so it makes this approach fun for them.
The best way to make sex hot is to go into the night already excited. If it’s simply on the schedule, but neither of you says anything about it or act on it, then it will likely fall flat. Use the schedule to your advantage and build anticipation with each other.
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