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3 Ways to Make Scheduled Sex Hot

One of my biggest tips for married couples is to schedule sex. A lot of people buck against me on that one, because they think it takes all the romance and excitement out of it. I think television has made us feel that way. If we don’t rip each other’s clothes off during a kissing frenzy, then it’s not amazing sex. I completely disagree. Scheduled sex can be super hot and here’s how.

One of my biggest tips for married couples is to schedule sex. A lot of people buck against me on that one, because they think it takes all the romance and excitement out of it. I think television has made us feel that way. If we don’t rip each other’s clothes off during a kissing frenzy, then it’s not amazing sex. I completely disagree. Scheduled sex can be super hot and here’s how.

1. Remind Each Other Early in The Day

Like anything else you put on your calendar, it’s important to remind each other about it. If your kid needs to get picked up at a different time, you’re going to send a reminder text right? Supposed to meet someone for dinner? You’re going to mention it before you part ways in the morning. You need to do the same thing on the days you are planning to have sex.

There are plenty of ways you can send sexy reminders to your spouse. You might send them a quick text that says, “can’t wait till later”. Or maybe you leave them a handwritten note in a place they’ll see it.

One of my favorite ways is to shoot a message through an app like Couple. If you establish this app as a place where you only write sexy things to your spouse, then they will know you are sending something steamy when they get the notification. Also, it’s password protected so no worries of the kids or folks at work seeing it.

2. Flirt Throughout the Day

I think a lot of couples abandon flirting after their dating years. What is flirting? I think of it as a loving ways to get your spouse’s attention. Maybe you give them a sexy look from across the room or say compliment the way they look. It could be a cheesy one liner or sweet hug and kiss.

One word of caution about flirting is that you need to learn what types of flirting your spouse responds to best. One of the biggest ways I see husbands flirt with their wives is to grab a boob. Not all women see copping a feel as flirting. Ask them what they like and aim to do those things.

Even if you are not home together, you can send a flirty text. You can call them on the phone for a few minutes and say something sweet to them.

Not sure what to text them? Check out these flirty texts from The Dating Divas.

3. Start Foreplay Before You Head to Bed For Sex

Get each other warmed up before you get to the bedroom. This might be the time when grabbing a boob or pinching a butt is welcomed. It’s a lot of fun to rub on your spouse here and there leading up to bed.

Jay Dee over at Uncovering Intimacy talked about how he and his wife spent a day having sex. They ran off for a few minutes to indulge in a little foreplay. They would stop before he climaxed but would keep going if she could. Women can have multiple orgasms without the refractory period, so it makes this approach fun for them.

The best way to make sex hot is to go into the night already excited. If it’s simply on the schedule, but neither of you says anything about it or act on it, then it will likely fall flat. Use the schedule to your advantage and build anticipation with each other.

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We Just Coined a New Term- Men’s Sexywear

The results from the lingerie survey are in! While I am not ready to release the results yet, there is one interesting thing that I noticed- not nearly enough men are wearing lingerie. Which begs the question, should we call it lingerie for men?

We Coined the Term Sexywear

We bounced around the idea of what to call it in our private community. We came up with men’s sexywear! I think that sounds a lot better than lingerie for men, personally. What do you think? We played around with manwear, but that conjured up images of lumberjacks in the woods (which might be your thing).

Why Don’t Men Wear Lingerie?

That brings me to my next thought. Why aren’t men wearing more sexywear? I know several men who have told me they’ve asked their wives what they want them to wear and their wives simply don’t know. I get it. There’s not a lot on the market for men at this point, but there is enough for you guys to figure out how to look hot for your wife.

Men’s Sexywear Recommendations

I recommend that if your wife doesn’t give you any ideas, you should start trying some things. Check out this article I wrote about men’s sexy outfits and lingerie.

To add to the list of things I wrote in that article, some of our community members suggested these items:

What else would you add to the list? leave me a comment and let me know. 

Other things on my mind this week:

Austin and I put our marriage course in a bundle of resources from The Dating Divas. It’s on sale for two more days. You can read up on it on the blog and watch the video I recorded to show off what you get inside.

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5 Types of Vibrators and Tips On How To Use Them

The owner of Married Dance put together these great tips on vibrators. He was gracious enough to let me share these tips with you. I know I learned a lot from these ideas. It can be scary to buy a vibrator, because you have no idea what it will feel like or if it is a waste of money. These tips will help you pick out the right one.

1. Bullet and Egg Vibrators

If you’ve never used a vibrators before, these are a good kinds to start with. Bullet vibrators are usually small and can be used to from stimulation during foreplay. You can them take a step further and add some spice to intercourse.

Egg vibrators are named as such because they are shaped like a flattened egg. Instead of holding them like the bullet, these ones are cupped by your hand. These types can be used both on the wife and husband.


2. Wireless Remote Controlled Vibrators

Operating these toys can be quite fun. Just like other vibrators I’ll mention in a minute, they can be enjoyed during foreplay and intercourse. Here are two ways to use them:

  • The husband uses the bullet vibrators and places it inside the wife. She has the remote to control the level of stimulation. Oral or manual stimulation can accompany the use this type.
  • The wife takes the egg vibrator, cups it in her hand and places it underneath her husband’s testicles. He gets the remote this time, allowing him to control his own pleasure. Oral stimulation from the wife pairs well with this technique. This one is best used if you want “catch a breath during intercourse”.


3. Wearable Vibrators

These types of vibrators can be worn by your husband during intercourse. A stretchy ring is placed around the bullet vibrator so it can be worn on the penis. It then vibrates to stimulate your husband during intercourse while at the same time stimulating your clitoris.


4. Bullet Vibrators With a Flat Tip

The vibrators have a flat tip at one end. This is primarily for the wife’s use. The flat tip enables optimal clitoral stimulation to be reached by easily targeting where she needs it.


5. Rumbly Vibrators

While most vibrators have a low humming sound, these rumbly vibrators are quite the opposite. Although they are still quiet, they are very powerful. The powerful rumble enhances lovemaking by delivering an intense charge of stimulation during foreplay or even intercourse.


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How to Do a Breast Massage

Just so you know, I freaking love Denis. He is the owner of Melt Massage, which is a video course that teaches you how to massage your spouse. I have gone through the course and done these massages for Austin in the past. Today, Denis released a breast massage video on YouTube. Don’t worry! There’s nothing sexual about it.

He goes through the tutorial on the streets of Spain. Breast massage is so important! For one, it can be used as an early detection of cancer or cysts. Also, it can help you restore lost breast tissue and increase your breast size and fullness.

How to Do a Breast Massage

If you want to check out his full video courses go here. Want the most amazing oils for massage? Check out his blends on Amazon here.

He has done a really great job showing how you can make this massage sensual for both men and women. I’m so happy he does these tutorials. Tell me what you think about it!


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How to Develop The Right Mindset For a Rockin Sex Life

Many woman struggle with their sexual health and have no idea where to start. First and foremost, it is important to realize that men are easily aroused through physical encounters, while women require more emotional connection. In order for a woman to reach the point of orgasm, her mind and emotions must be completely engaged with her partner. Once this occurs, truly amazing sex can be enjoyed by both.

Most women struggle with the way that they think about themselves. Women have many reasons as to why they struggle with having the right mindset for sex. I have listed several ways that you can prepare yourself to have the right attitude for enjoyable sex with your spouse.

You can read the full post at Love Hope  Adventure




What Causes Low Libido?

Both husbands and wives are susceptible to low libido. What is low libido exactly? It’s when you don’t have the desire to have sex. So, what causes that? Here are a few reasons your desire may drop

1. Sex is Painful

Some people experience pain when they are having sex. Discomfort during sex will kill the mood.

These are a few of the types of pain you might experience:

When you are in pain during a time of sex, it can keep you from enjoying yourself. In fact, you may not orgasm at all. It can be hard to be excited about sex if you know you are going to be let down.


2. Medication or Medical Conditions

Some medications can cause your desire to go away. Medications like birth control and antidepressants are big culprits. Talk to your doctor about trying a different medicine if it keeps up. There might be other things you can do to control your condition.

3. Too Tired

Maybe you have little babies you are getting up with all through the night. Or, you might be in a busy season of life at work. It could be that you have been sick for a while. No matter what the reason you are tired, it can keep you from getting excited about sex.

4. Being Pregnant

Some women have a higher libido when they get pregnant. Others have hormone changes that decrease their desire. Even when you are breastfeeding, it can cause your hormones to be out of whack.

This season of a woman’s life also brings a lot of factors that can make it hard for her to engage in sex. Taking care of children is draining and exhausting. It causes women to have a different opinion of her body, which can keep her from not feeling sexy.

5. Problems in The Marriage

Real problems in the marriage can keep you from enjoying sex with your spouse. It can be hard to feel close to someone when you are always fighting.

If you are dealing with low libido, it’s best to figure out what’s going on. Once you know the reason behind what you are dealing with, you can work towards a solution.


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Tips for Hotter Sex and How to Get Into Difficult Sex Positions

Do you want ideas on how to have hotter sex? What about tips on how to get in more difficult sex positions? Well, you’re in luck, because Austin and I are bringing on a guest tonight to answer these questions. Brent, the owner of Married Dance and Christian Friendly Sex Positions is coming on our live webinar to give us tips and tricks to help with your sex life.

What I love about Brent is that he has worked very hard to share the sex education we all crave in a God honoring way. He’s a guy that can answer your questions and give you real helps.

Be sure to sign up for the free webinar through the link below.

Sign up for the free webinar here 

These are the questions we are going to answer:
1. what keeps a couple from trying new sex positions?
2. how can one partner approach their spouse to try a new position?
3. Are there any tips you can give us to make sex hotter?
4. What are your tips for a couple that is going to try a more advanced position?
5. What are a few advanced positions you suggest?
6. Do you have any aids that would help couples with these positions in your store?

Hope you enjoy the conversations and get some great tips for how to have hotter sex and get into difficult positions.

How to Talk About Your Sexual Fantasies With Your Spouse

I get it, it’s really hard to talk about sexual fantasies with your spouse. In fact, some people think that it is more intimate to talk about sex even more so than having sex. You have to open yourself up and share your feelings and emotions.

We had Jay Dee from Uncovering Intimacy on a webinar with us recently to talk about this very thing. He said that many of his readers say that they struggle in this area. He gave us some really great advice. You can check out the webinar and listen in.

If you would rather read what Jay has to say, you can head over to Uncovering Intimacy and read his post, The Best Way to Talk About Sexual Fantasies.

Top 10 Sex Positions

I received this amazing resource from the owner of Christian Friendly Sex Positions. He put together a list of the top 10 sex positions from 2017. These are the top ranking positions on his website. I would say that many couples should be able to do at least a few off this list.

Also, if you’d like to get a printable version of these sex positions, check them out here.

Check out the hottest sex positions from this past year-

10. Packing the Suitcase

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This position requires the wife to raise her legs above her head. If she is not quite flexible enough for that, then she should bring her legs to the side and not straight up. Instead of the husband having his arms around her legs, she should open her legs more and let them fall to the side.

9. Flatiron

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Flatiron is a rear entry position that requires both husband and wife to lay on the bed. You can do this position without  using a sex pillow. However, using a pillow like that will make this position easier. Otherwise, the wife is going to need to bring her butt up towards her husband’s stomach.

8. Indian Headstand

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I’ll be honest, I have no idea who has the strength to do this one. But you might be able to make something like this happen if the wife laid over a chair to help brace herself. Basically, both husband and wife are going to need some strength and agility.

 7. Jack Hammer

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The husband needs to brace his hands against a wall so that he can hold himself up. The wife will pleasure him with her mouth.

6. Throat Swab

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For the Throat Swab, a wife will need to lay down and hang her head off the edge of a bed. The husband will need to spread his legs and stand over her. He should gently place his member in her mouth and slowly thrust, being careful to not go too deep.

5. Reverse Grinding the Corn

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A lot of women like Reverse Grinding the Corn (reverse coital alignment technique, or CAT). It is a wife-on-top sex position. It can allow for deep penetration for the husband. But, for the wife, there is great clitoral stimulation. She can also determine how deep she wants to go. 

4. Doggy Style

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Doggy Style is also known as “From Behind”. This position can give a women great g-spot stimulation, but her husband needs to be aware of how deep she can handle it. Make sure there is plenty of communication between husband and wife for both to enjoy this position. 

The wife can consider using a bullet vibrator to stimulate her clitoris while her husband makes love to her.

3. Grinding the Corn

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Grinding the Corn (coital alignment technique, or CAT) is a husband-on-top sex position with great clitoral stimulation. The wife should raise her hips and squeeze her butt during this position to make it more stimulating. She can also put a pillow under her bottom to get the right angle. 

2. Best View

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Best View is a sex position where the wife lays on her back and the husband gets on his knees. He will need to bend his member down to insert it in his wife. The wife will need to rock her bottom down towards the bed and help to guide her husband in. 

This is a great position for the husband to use a bullet vibrator on his wife.

1. Banana Split

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Banana Split is a deep penetration sex position that’s enjoyed using the edge of a table or counter top. If there is a large height difference between the husband and wife, then the shorter one should stand on a stool. This will help to get the angles right for penetration. 

I hope that you and your spouse enjoy these positions.

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What Are Things That Distract You During Sex?

Do you feel distracted during sex? If so, you’re not the only one. Many couples struggle with this for many different reasons.

Maybe you find your mind wandering to things you need to get done in a day. Or, maybe something happens that kills the mood for you.

Here’s a few distracting things that can happen during sex and ways to keep it from happening. You can’t keep all distractions down, but you can reduce them with some planning.

Distractions That Happen During Sex