You Need a Sex Date
I’m a huge advocate of dating in your marriage. Dating is a time where you and your spouse can come together to focus on one another. Of course, you have to make the commitment that you are going to put away your phones and spend the time talking about things other than your responsibilities.
There are many types of dates you can incorporate into your marriage. I think that sex dates is definitely one of those.
What is a Sex Date?
Basically, a sex date is a time when you and your spouse are going to spend the time having sex. I know it can seem a bit daunting to schedule a couple hours to be intimate, but this can be a lot of fun.
When you block out this much time to have sex with one another, you are going to have time to be adventurous. It can be hard to try new things if you are on limited time every time you are intimate.
What to Do on a Sex Date
To have a successful night with one another, you need to put together a plan. It would be good to discuss your expectations ahead of time. Knowing what the other has in mind for the date will help you have a better experience.
Here’s a few ideas for your sex date.
Dine in Lingerie or the Nude
Just because you plan to enjoy physical intimacy with one another, doesn’t mean you can’t eat. If you have the ability, you can have dinner for two while dressed in something sexy or nothing at all.
Have Sexy Conversations
Whether you are having a meal together or not, steer your conversations to sex. Here are a few prompts that you can use to get yourselves in the mood.
- What did you think the first time you saw me naked?
- What was the best part of having sex the first time?
- How do you think we have matured in our sex life from the beginning?
- What position would you like to try tonight?
- Describe to me your favorite part of my body in detail.
- If you could kiss any part of my body right this second, what would it be?
- What does it feel like to orgasm?
Talking about these things will get you in the mood, as well as help you both learn more about your sexual preferences.
Play a Bedroom Game
One of the reasons that Austin and I have created so many bedroom games, is we realize how beneficial they are. When you have cards that give your foreplay prompts, it helps you enjoy your intimacy. For one thing, you don’t have to try and figure out what you want to do, which takes a lot of pressure off.
The other great thing about bedroom games, the prompts can take you outside of your comfort zone. What’s written on the cards may not be things you’ve tried before.
These are my favorite bedroom games-
Try a Different Position
There are so many different sex positions that you can try during your date night. I would suggest that you pull up a few ideas and try more than one. My favorite place to get sex position ideas is at Christian Friendly Sex Positions.
Dance in The Nude
Put on some music that you can dance to. Either start with your clothes off, or take them off as you go. This is a good way to enjoy your time together.
These are a few of the things you can do on your sex date together. After a night like this, you will feel re-connected.
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We do not have a sex date per say often but one thing we do is a sexcation once or twice a year… We do have sex quite often otherwise but would not count those as a sex date …. Love the idea because I am the high drive spouse…but my wife is a lower drive but she is willing to meet my deed for sex(love making)… She is AWESOME.
That is great. 🙂 I’m so glad you guys get to have a sexcation. 🙂 I like sex dates because it allows you to connect emotionally before connecting physically. It can be a great idea for both the lower drive spouse and the higher drive spouse.
I have known this lady since 2004. We were both departed ways from our opposites and they were now in a serious relationship with each other. Well my ex is with her ex and they have been together for 6 years now. I ended up having awesome sex with this lady , and its been 12 yes since I have had sex with anyone. This lady seemed to really like me and she enjoyed having enthusiastic sex for me . I ended up falling so much in love with this lady that I have never experienced before in such an overwhelming way and also in such a short time, I had consensual sex with her on Christmas night . well , she would tell me things that ensured to me that she was in love with me too, and not just love me. After a few weeks she had told me about some of her bad experiences with different people in the town that were living in together at the time. She said that she couldn’t wait to get out and away to a different town to start a new life. I told her that I was going too . I don’t receive any bad vibes from her for the statement that I had just implied to her. She would tell me that she loved me too after I would tell her that I love her and I loved to hear her voice say it to me . That would make me shake and so happy that I thanked god for bringing her into my life. She told me a weak later that she had landed a job in a little town about 170 miles away and that she was leaving in the morning because a female friend of hers was coming down to pick up her and her belongings. We did have sex that last night in my life with her by my side. She was gone by noon the next day and it still makes me overwhelmed and my heart is gone not just broken .! She will call me once a weak though . I have trued numerous times to call her but she says that she is either busy working or sleeping ,and that her phone has bad reception with calls dropping and stuff. She had told me that she misses me a lot too. Please . if you can . I don’t understand this trauma . I can’t take it no more! I break down too much more than crying , shaking , and I ask for god to please help me and be with her and me and help us reunite. I didn’t do nothing wrong all I ever wanted was gone forever and I am gone.
Hi Michael, I’m so sorry to hear you are in this position. Having sex with someone that you aren’t married to can bring a lot of confusing feelings. It can make it seem like they are committed to you, when in reality, they may not be. It sounds like she’s stringing you along and it’s time for you to stop talking to her. I know that is harsh, but it is obvious that she doesn’t want to let you down. Why she changed her mind? I have no idea. But from what you are sharing, it sounds like she did.