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Tips for Hotter Sex and How to Get Into Difficult Sex Positions

Do you want ideas on how to have hotter sex? What about tips on how to get in more difficult sex positions? Well, you’re in luck, because Austin and I are bringing on a guest tonight to answer these questions. Brent, the owner of Married Dance and Christian Friendly Sex Positions is coming on our live webinar to give us tips and tricks to help with your sex life.

What I love about Brent is that he has worked very hard to share the sex education we all crave in a God honoring way. He’s a guy that can answer your questions and give you real helps.

Be sure to sign up for the free webinar through the link below.

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These are the questions we are going to answer:
1. what keeps a couple from trying new sex positions?
2. how can one partner approach their spouse to try a new position?
3. Are there any tips you can give us to make sex hotter?
4. What are your tips for a couple that is going to try a more advanced position?
5. What are a few advanced positions you suggest?
6. Do you have any aids that would help couples with these positions in your store?

Hope you enjoy the conversations and get some great tips for how to have hotter sex and get into difficult positions.

How to Talk About Your Sexual Fantasies With Your Spouse

I get it, it’s really hard to talk about sexual fantasies with your spouse. In fact, some people think that it is more intimate to talk about sex even more so than having sex. You have to open yourself up and share your feelings and emotions.

We had Jay Dee from Uncovering Intimacy on a webinar with us recently to talk about this very thing. He said that many of his readers say that they struggle in this area. He gave us some really great advice. You can check out the webinar and listen in.

If you would rather read what Jay has to say, you can head over to Uncovering Intimacy and read his post, The Best Way to Talk About Sexual Fantasies.

Top 10 Sex Positions

I received this amazing resource from the owner of Christian Friendly Sex Positions. He put together a list of the top 10 sex positions from 2017. These are the top ranking positions on his website. I would say that many couples should be able to do at least a few off this list.

Check out the hottest sex positions from this past year-

10. Packing the Suitcase

 

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This position requires the wife to raise her legs above her head. If she is not quite flexible enough for that, then she should bring her legs to the side and not straight up. Instead of the husband having his arms around her legs, she should open her legs more and let them fall to the side.

9. Flatiron

 

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Flatiron is a rear entry position that requires both husband and wife to lay on the bed. You can do this position without  using a sex pillow. However, using a pillow like that will make this position easier. Otherwise, the wife is going to need to bring her butt up towards her husband’s stomach.

8. Indian Headstand

 

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I’ll be honest, I have no idea who has the strength to do this one. But you might be able to make something like this happen if the wife laid over a chair to help brace herself. Basically, both husband and wife are going to need some strength and agility.

 

 7. Jack Hammer

 

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The husband needs to brace his hands against a wall so that he can hold himself up. The wife will pleasure him with her mouth.

6. Throat Swab

 

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For the Throat Swab, a wife will need to lay down and hang her head off the edge of a bed. The husband will need to spread his legs and stand over her. He should gently place his member in her mouth and slowly thrust, being careful to not go too deep.

5. Reverse Grinding the Corn

 

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A lot of women like Reverse Grinding the Corn (reverse coital alignment technique, or CAT). It is a wife-on-top sex position. It can allow for deep penetration for the husband. But, for the wife, there is great clitoral stimulation. She can also determine how deep she wants to go. 

4. Doggy Style

 

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Doggy Style is also known as “From Behind”. This position can give a women great g-spot stimulation, but her husband needs to be aware of how deep she can handle it. Make sure there is plenty of communication between husband and wife for both to enjoy this position. 

The wife can consider using a bullet vibrator to stimulate her clitoris while her husband makes love to her.

3. Grinding the Corn

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Grinding the Corn (coital alignment technique, or CAT) is a husband-on-top sex position with great clitoral stimulation. The wife should raise her hips and squeeze her butt during this position to make it more stimulating. She can also put a pillow under her bottom to get the right angle. 

2. Best View

 

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Best View is a sex position where the wife lays on her back and the husband gets on his knees. He will need to bend his member down to insert it in his wife. The wife will need to rock her bottom down towards the bed and help to guide her husband in. 

This is a great position for the husband to use a bullet vibrator on his wife.

1. Banana Split

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Banana Split is a deep penetration sex position that’s enjoyed using the edge of a table or counter top. If there is a large height difference between the husband and wife, then the shorter one should stand on a stool. This will help to get the angles right for penetration. 

I hope that you and your spouse enjoy these positions.

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What Are Things That Distract You During Sex?

Do you feel distracted during sex? If so, you’re not the only one. Many couples struggle with this for many different reasons.

Maybe you find your mind wandering to things you need to get done in a day. Or, maybe something happens that kills the mood for you.

Here’s a few distracting things that can happen during sex and ways to keep it from happening. You can’t keep all distractions down, but you can reduce them with some planning.

Distractions That Happen During Sex

Rock Your Sex Life With These Black Friday Deals

I bet you’ve seen a lot of Black Friday and Cyber Monday roundups over the last few days…at least I know I have. I’m a bit of deal hound to say the least. But, I haven’t seen any real roundups of deals that will help you have a better sex life- so here ya go.

Love Hope Adventure Shop

If you didn’t know, Love Hope Adventure, my sister site, has a shop. You can get 50% off of your order in our shop between now and Monday at midnight. Use the coupon code blackfriday at checkout. You can see our large selection of printable bedroom games and other printables. Go to my store here.

Married Dance Christian Friendly Sex Toy Store

Married Dance is a Christian friendly sex toy store that I trust. They have porn free packaging and images on the website. You can also see their great description of the different items in the store. Use my coupon code love at checkout to get 15% off your order. Go here to see what they sell.

Uncovering Intimacy Games

Uncovering Intimacy put two of their spicy games on sale. They are 50% off the regular price when you go to checkout. No coupon code required. See those two products here.

4 Marriage Bed Tips Round-up

Are you looking for some new ways to spice up your sex life? There’s many fun things you can do to make sex feel better for you or your spouse. I put together a round-up of marriage bed tips you can try.

1. Button Rub Intercourse Technique

Marriage Bed Tips suggests that you use the button rub technique in order to stimulate a wife’s clitoris during sex. God designed a woman to have 8,000 nerve endings in the clitoris. If you haven’t taken time to really get to know your anatomy, it is important that you and your spouse explore.

Check out the detailed instructions of how to get more stimulation during intercouse in their post-

The Button Rub Intercourse Technique

2. A Day of Sex

I’m so glad that my friend Jay Dee wrote about his experience with having a day of sex with his wife. He came up with the idea and figured out some rules that he and his wife played by during the day. It was a really great experience for them.

If you want to try it with your spouse, then check out his post here-

A Day of Sex

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3. Husband’s Hands When Wife is On Top

El Fury put together a great post about what a husband can do with his hands while his wife is on top of him during sex. If your wife isn’t one that likes an on top position, she may reconsider if you add in some of these ideas.

Head over and check out his round-up here-

Husband’s Hands When Wife is On Top

4. Foreplay Moves That Will Actually Turn You On

If you are like me, then you’re tired of reading “how to spice it up” posts that tell you to do one of three horrible things- watch porn, masturbate, or have a threesome. That’s why I wrote a post full of ideas that are actually healthy for your marriage.

Check out my full list of foreplay moves here-

 

Foreplay Moves That Will Actually Turn You On

 

What marriage bed tips would you add to the list? Leave me a comment!

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Can You Have Sex All Day Long?

My friend Jay Dee from Uncovering Intimacy shared about his experience of having sex all day long. He wrote a post about it and mapped out exactly what he did and gave some recommendations of how you can also do the same thing.

What I really loved about this is that he was so creative with his spouse. He heard an idea and retro-fitted it to work with his specific life situation.

If you want to get some ideas of how you can have sex all day long, then check out his post over at Uncovering Intimacy.

 

A Day of Sex

 

How to Be More Enthusiastic In The Bedroom

I had a reader ask me to share ways they could be more enthusiastic in the bedroom. This is a tough thing for lower drive spouses. Since they don’t always feel excited, they can struggle to be enthusiastic about love making.

Here’s what you can do to be more enthusiastic-

1. Admit That You Enjoy Sex

It is so important that you admit that you personally enjoy sex. This is different than saying you like having sex for your spouse’s sake. Instead, you need to embrace how sex makes you feel. Let yourself get excited about the emotions and feelings you receive from the sexual experience you have together.

2. Define What Enthusiasm Looks Like

Here’s one of those words that you really must define as a couple. As Austin and I were talking about our definition of enthusiasm, it’s completely different.

This is what he considers enthusiastic-

  • Initiate sexual encounters
  • Talk about how to have better sex
  • Make noises and share emotion
  • Not just laying there

Those are pretty reasonable expectations of what it looks like to be enthusiastic.

Me, on the other hand, have much greater ideas of what enthusiasm looks like. When I think enthusiastic, I envision taking a lot of time to look sexy, making a grand entrance, and being really energetic.

If Austin says to me, I would like you to be more enthusiastic, and I base it off of my definition, then I might very well feel overwhelmed. But, since I know what his expectations are, they don’t seem unrealistic.

The same goes for him. If I were to ask him to be more enthusiastic, he would know what to shoot for.    

3. Create One Goal To Shoot For

To be more confident in your sex life, you need small wins. So, set yourself up to win. Come up with one small goal to shoot for. If you spouse says that if you make noises, they’ll know you’re being enthusiastic, then make that your goal.

Decide that you are going to make an effort to make noise during your next 3 sexual encounters. See where it goes from there. You don’t have to check off everything from the list, just do one thing.

4. Have Accountability

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I know that accountability in the area of sex is not easy. We don’t tend to share our personal struggles in this part of our lives. This is a place we need to get better as Christian couples. Instead of thinking we can handle everything ourselves, we should be confiding in others that are trustworth.

There’s a few ways you can develop accountability. Here’s a few ideas-

  • Schedule sex ahead of time
  • Write down your goals in a place you will see it (but your kids won’t find it out)
  • Keep a journal with your experiences
  • Set a reminder on your phone
  • Tell a friend you trust

Don’t have anyone you can discuss sex with? That’s why we created the Love Hope Adventure Community. The group is filled with people that are comfortable talking about sexual intimacy as well as other sensitive marriage topics.

You can get on the list to join the community below-

5. Play Bedroom Games

Bedroom games take the guesswork out of foreplay and sexual adventure. Austin and I created our first bedroom game before we were bloggers. In fact, we made it for some of our dearest friends.

Of course, we had to try out our finished product. We were blown away at how playing that first sexy bedroom game revolutionized our sex lives. We had a really great sex life at that point, but the games took it to the next level.

The reason the games help so much, is that it takes the pressure off of you. All you have to do is follow the prompts and enjoy yourself. You can check out our games in our shop.

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How to Approach Your Spouse After They Have Refused Something Sexual

Have you tried to go to your spouse regarding something sexual that you want to try and been shot down? I think this is pretty common in marriages. There could be any number of reasons that this happens. So, what do you do if you want to try to ask again?

Here’s a few tips to help you have the conversation again.

Be Patient and Give Time

For one thing, you need to be patient and give your spouse time. Let at least a few months pass before you bring this up again. I know that may be a long time to wait, but if you come back to them too quickly, it can sound pushy. You want to handle this gently, because if you don’t, you can make it worse.

Become Adventurous In Other Things

If your spouse is one that already struggles to be adventurous in the bedroom, then you need to work on that concept. Find something out of the usual that they do want to try and start there. If they are a person that just never wants to experiment sexually, then consider going outside of intimacy and do things in life that are adventurous.

Work together to become more adventurous as a couple in different aspects of your life and it will open the doors to more adventure in the bedroom.

Have The Conversation in a Non-Threatening Setting

One of the reasons that your spouse may shoot you down about something new, is that you sprung it on them in the middle of sex. Some people need time to be mentally prepared to do things out of the ordinary. Rather then approaching your spouse right before a sexual encounter, you should have the conversation in a non-sexual setting.

Find Out Their Hangups

There’s likely a reason they shot you down. It’s important that you figure out why they did. What’s their hangup?

These are some possible reasons-

  • Moral objection
  • Feel embarrased
  • Hygiene concerns
  • Thinks it will be painful
  • Makes them feel dirty

Really listen to why they don’t want to try the new thing. Maybe there is a way you can work together as a couple to overcome those hangups. Ask them if they have any ideas of how they can get over those ideas and try it. Again, stay patient with them.

Be Thankful For What You Have Together

It can be really easy to focus on what you don’t have versus what you do have. Be really intentional about thanking your spouse for the things they do that please you. If they feel like they keep putting themselves out there, and all you do is bring up what they don’t want to do, it won’t go over well.

Hopefully some of these ideas will help you out when going back to your spouse about a sensitive topic. If you want to be a part of discussions like this, join us in the Love Hope Adventure Community. Sign up for the newsletter below and we will send you instructions of how to join the community.

Don’t Have Sex FOR Your Spouse Have Sex WITH Your Spouse

I’ve been taken back by the number of conversations I’ve had about sex where the person I’m talking to says something like this-

“I need to get better about sex for my spouse”.

I’m sorry- but if you take on that attitude, you’re gonna fail. Besides, your spouse can tell the difference if you are having sex for them, verses with them.

Having sex FOR your spouse comes across as an obligation- not something you are are going to get any benefit from. However, if you decide you want to have sex WITH your spouse, then it becomes a mutually beneficial thing.

9 times out of 10, your motivation for sex should be to invest in the intimacy of your marriage. Sure, there are going to be some times when you are putting aside your preferences and giving your spouse something that they really need. But, if you make your sex life a full diet of just, “doing it FOR my spouse”…you’re gonna fail and all kinds of resentment will happen on both sides of the equation.

Why not commit to making your sexual interactions something you do WITH your spouse. Take them off your chore list.